As many of us have been a victim of bullying at one time or another, we can certainly understand how long and fare reaching the effects of bullying can reach.  Those moments in time when we are being bullied, seem like moments that will never end.  We may begin to feel sad, down and depressed, questioning our self-value and self-worth.  The effects of bullying can leave us feeling stressed, unable to function at our full capacity.
     Over time the effects of bullying may begin to take a toll on us physically, by effecting our posture and our breathing pattern, which in turn can effect our ability to take in the needed the full amount of oxygen that our body and brain needs, in order to function at its full capacity,
     The video below demonstrates 3 exercises that can help us to get through the negative effects of bullying.  Remember, you can get through those moments of bullying.  Chin up, and thank you for visiting the Love And Sustainability Initiative.  Via L.S.

     For just about a year and a half, America has been soaring pretty high over the recent Election.  It's probably the best of reality TV ever.  But in all the rumbling and major duke-outs, it's the children we need to help to understand the whole mess.

     As a result of this Election
we've seen a surge in bullying not just with adults but with our children.  so how can we help our children get through such a charged time?  Maybe you'll find some helpful tips in the video below.
     

​      There is no question that as parents we want our child to feel loved,o feel protected and to feel secure because we know that that those are the things that are vital to the health of their growth and maturity.  Today though, we live in a world where there exist so many things that can threaten those feelings of being loved, protected and secure.  Needless to say, bullying is one of those things, and so the question is 'How can I help my child deal with bullying?  In a perfect world our children would simply come to us and let us know, but we don't live in a perfect world and therefore it is vital that we as parents are constantly checking and monitoring the pulse of our children.
     Back in the day there was an extremely important conversation that every parent had to have with their child.  It was an absolute must and it still is.  It was a conversation that was usually a one time conversation and it had to be done by a certain age.  Do you remember yet what that conversation was about?  Yeah, that conversation about the 'birds and the bees'.  Why it is call called that; one may never cease to wonder, but today there is another conversation that we as parents need to have with our child.
     As it stands now with bullying transforming into a socially sick epidemic it is vital that parents have a conversation with their child about bullying.  It is vital that we ask them the question and that we let them know how much we love them and that we are here for them.  As parents it is important for us to not only pay attention to our child's response but also to their reactions.  Unlike the 'birds and the bees' conversation, which was usually a one time deal, the conversation that we need to have with our children today is a conversation that needs to be an ongoing one, for the simple reason that as we may ask our child if they are being bullied one week, the answer may be 'no', but things can change from week to week and because of that it is important for us as parents to continually reassure our children of our love for them, their importance to us, the fact of their high value to us and to the world, that we are here for them to love them, protect them and give them the security they need.
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     Today I want us to take a look at what is the number 1 thing that is needed to help you when you are being bullied.  Even though I came up with several things that need to be done, the one thing that is vital and that will empower you, is, for you to take action to Stand Up For Yourself.  Please realize that standing up for yourself is a process that will empower you in the bullying situation, bringing you much satisfaction in the end.
     Are you ready?   now the most important thing that you need to do to jump start the Stand Up For Yourself process is to TELL EVERYONE.  Yes.  TELL EVERYONE.  This is the most important thing that you can do to jump start the Stand Up For Yourself process.  When you TELL EVERYONE, this will actually empower you because it will help you to maintain and raise your confidence and self-esteem levels, which is something we need to protect for the benefit of our peace and well-being.
     So who is the "everyone" that you need to tell?    This would include your siblings, your friends, your cousins, your aunts and uncles, your grandparents, your mother and father,your school guidance counselor, your principal and assistant principal, the school nurse, and if you feel that you are in eminent danger, then you call 911.  See more in the video.  Make a physical list if you feel up to it, but a mental list is fine as well.  By telling these people on your list, you will once again be empowering yourself in the Stand Up For Yourself process.
     The next thing we want to go over is How to Tell Everyone.  As an example with which you can use and tailor to fit you.  I would start something like this "I have something I need to tell you but it's a secret'.  After saying that, you will continue your statement by adding, 'i am being bullied and I feel really bad about it, I need someone to help me. Before you Tell Everyone, it may help for you to practice that statement in the mirror, so that when you do Tell Everyone, you will feel more comfortable and confident doing so.  By using the two magic words, which are, need and secret in your statement, you will be able to grab the immediate attention of the person you are telling
     Always keep in mind , that standing up for yourself is a process, so do not get discouraged as things can take time, but relish in the fact that you have jump started the process.  Beware of forming preconeieved ideas of how you want or feel that someone should respond.  Remember too, that you are loved and that your life is valuable and DON'T GIVE UP.
     as a side note, I was writing this article and I overheard Ms. Wendy Williams share some of her experiences of being bullied in school.  She also shared an experience of bullying by Viola Davis, the star of the show How to Get Away with Murder.  Yes these two beautiful women survived being bullied and you can too.
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